Oscar James Villarreal
THOSE WHO JUDGE, DO NOT MATTER & THOSE WHO MATTER, DO NOT JUDGE
He would have changed the world had he lived longer. Instead, He changed me... "To the world, he was just one - To us, he was the whole world"
Oscar James Villarreal "OJ"- born January 26th,1987 in Victoria Texas and is survived by mother, father and two brothers.
Oj loved and lived life to the fullest.He was a risk taker and lived everyday for what it was worth. Oj had a heart of gold and loved and was loved by so many . He was my first born , my parents first grandson and my sister and brothers first nephew. He was special to all of us . We gave him whatever he wanted and we had no bounderies for him...he was our special Oj.
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I will begin by sharing one of the most difficult days of my LIFE......September 16th, 2007... the day my sweet angel Oj left this earth part of me died with him. This night will forever be in my memory and in my heart. I have learned that on this earth there are people and then there are people who have lost children. I do not wish this on anyone! It is almost as if there are two worlds here on earth. The normal life and the life without your child. I cannot even begin to tell you how I feel because it is undescribable. My prayers for any parent that has lost a child.....only we know the pain and how it changes you.
My wonderful son would mature into the beautiful person he was. He was my backbone, he was there when I needed him (he was there for so many)...we would have long conversations about life and what we wanted out of it. He would tell me how he felt about his dad leaving and the choices he made. Oj also had another love and that was partying with his friends. He enjoyed going out with his friends. I would worry and stay up waiting up for him to return home safely. If he ever needed a ride he would call me and I would pick him up at any time of the night, wherever he was. It didn't matter to me I just wanted him to be safe.
Here are some of the details of the night my Sweet angel left to be wth our Heavenly father.
On the night my son was killed he was walking with a friend. Oj was always ready to help a friend in need. On this night his friend was having problems with his girlfriend so Oj asked if he could sleep over. I told him yes but not to leave because I knew they had been drinking earlier in the day. My son knew not to walk if he was drinking I don't know why on this night he took a chance and walked??? He also never left home without his cell phone, well this night he did...I think he grabbed his friends phone not realizing it was not his. Well I stayed up with them to make sure they didnt leave. Around 2:30am I saw that he had laid down,(I thought he was going to sleep). I laid down and a few minutes later he came to the room to ask me for a ride. He wanted a taco from a stand down the road from our house(night before I had bought him one). I told him yes to give me a few minutes...I thought he would go to sleep and would forget about being hungry. Well again I saw him lay down so I fell asleep not knowing he would walk out that door?????? ( days later my son Chuck told me they tried waking me up but I would not??????????????) around 5:45am I get a call from the police department an officer was at the door. My first instinct was to run out of my bedroom straight to Oj's room...HE WAS NOT THERE!!!! I opened the front door and the officer asked me if I was OJ's mom... I YELLED YES IS HE OK????? He shook his head no...I asked is he dead???? He said yes....Oj was hit by a car down the street from were we lived. The driver ran ?????? I wanted to end my life not even thinking about my two young sons....I had three boys and one was gone. I wanted all three boys and that was not going to happen. How could this be we cared for him so much and tried to keep him safe all the time. This could not be happening he was such a good person....not one bad bone in his body. His weakness was drinking???? I thought I was protecting him from everything and on this night I failed him. I will never forgive myself for not waking up....we lost a son , brother , granson , nephew and friend. So many lives were touched by this horrible accident. Well the next few months were living &*?? Icouldn't make funeral arrangements and I was forced to attend the funeral( thank God). During this time I wanted to go with my baby boy....I still remember the feeling and heartache! Thank God my sister took over and made all arrangments. I couln't stand the thought of my son being dead.
I blamed myself for not waking up...I felt like If I would have not fallen asleep I would have saved him. I felt like I was the worst person walking on the face of the earth. If I could I would give up my life RIGHT NOW to let him live. I miss him more than I will ever be able to explain. Part of me left with him...on that night. So many words left unsaid and so many questions unanswered???? IT WILL NEVER BE RIGHT OR MAKE SENSE TO ME!!!!!! He was my baby! Life seems so hard now...the days drag on and most of the time I don't know what day it is. The only hope I get is knowing that he is resting with God and his Angels and that some day the good Lord will call my name to join him. My son always made me proud and he was perfect in my eyes!I love you Oj with ALL MY HEART!!!!!!!! We will continue to live life for OJ...that is what he would want. I will pass on my memories everyday until the day I die. We will celebrate the memories God gave us with him and be thankful for the 20 years we had him. I believe my son had a special place in Heaven and God needed a special angel. Thanks for listening... Oj's mom