This was written back in August if 08.Three months after my sister was killed in a car accident.I hope this will bring some comfort to those who have lost a loved one.Today would have been Kim's 48th birthday.We miss and love her forever and a day.Won't you stop by and wish her a Happy Heavenly birthday!!

For ALL who have lost a loved one please know they are still with us and will always be with us.They watch over us and guide us but only from a different place and in a different way.I lost my precious sister in a car accident just 2mos ago and I am still devastated but she has sent signs from the beyond to let us know she is here  with us and it  was clear she wanted to get that message across.You must believe for the connection to be made.I speak with her everyday and I know she sees and hears all.The pain of and sorrow of her loss is unimaginable and at times seems unbearable but I know as I walk with God he will see me thru these most difficult days ahead and my broken heart will begin to heal.Take refuge in your faith and your God and he will be the light in your darkest hours.Just remember your loved one is in a place of no pain or suffering,no sorrow or tears.I know we have all asked WHY but there are no answers.Once we are reunited with our loved ones and only until then will the mystery be revealed.The questions will all be answered.My faith sustains me and I look to my God for the strength I need to help my parents deal with the loss of their baby girl Kim.Even though she was 46 she was the youngest in a family of four.She is my baby sister and will always be.May God Bless each and every one of you who have suffered a devastating loss and may He comfort you and cradle you in his loving arms.May his peace and the comfort of his abiding love be with you all.

Hope you all can take a look at my friends post.  He was an awesome guy who touched soooo many people.  A great cop, doting dad, loyal friend.  I know he's in a better place buy he's so missed.  His young children leaned so much on him, he was always the stable one for them.  Thanks for reading.

Mom I miss you so much.  Not a day goes by that I do not think of you.  You gave the best hugs in the world.  It has been almost 2 months and it is so hard.  I keep waiting for you to call, and I call dad and almost ask where are you.  I look at the pictures and smile and cry.  I get depressed sometimes, but I remind my self you are in no more pain, no more insulin shots, no more pills. And you are with God and with the relatives and eating what you want.  I know I will see you some time.  Just that when I had a pain or a hurt you were there to hug me and say I love you.  I just want you to know I think of you and have had dreams.  I know you are talking to me and looking down on all of us.  I know dad, Sara, Steve, Madison and Mathew miss you to.. and I am sure Sandy Pearl does to. Dad says she just lays around.  Keep watch over all of us...I love you so much...Your brat Terri

Please visit davids page.He is new,and his name is not on the new list.Help me keep my brother's memory going...Thank You...Tonie

My site is open for everyone. Come and meet my son Christopher "Topher". He will sadly miss. 2010 will be a lonely year without my son. Topher will never meet his new niece or nephew. But now I know you are in peace and happiness. I love you so much my heart breaks each and everyday.

Love Mummy

i miss brad and everyday i ask why? 2010 will be lonely because you are not there to share all of my successes with me.I miss you and I love you.

My site is open for the public, I never want any mother to have to live what I had to go through and  Please sign her guest book it would mean alot to us....

I am a new member to Virtual Memorials and I would like to invited everyone to visit My Angel's site.  My heart goes out to everyone who has lost a love one...I am a P.O.M.C

I am praying for everyone for there lose. I would like to invite you to my sons web page. I am doing a walk next year with the March of Dimes and would like all your support. Thank you and god bless you all and our ANGELS. 

Two songs play at once on our memorial. How should I fix this?  thanks Gail

Dear Sheryl,

  There are no words to express the devastating loss of a child. I am so sorry.  I was comforted by the Bible acount of Jesus resurrected friend Lazarus and my hope is that it will do the same for you. This historical event gave me so much hope and comfort. It helped me to understand the condition of the dead when Jesus said "Lazarus our friend has gone to rest, but I am journeying to awaken him from sleep." -John 11:11.  It also gave me hope of seeing my loved one again when Jesus resurrected Lazarus who was already asleep in death for 4 days. -John 11:38 - 44. That same hope exists for your son Richard in the very near future. So, please turn to the Bible, and maybe, like me you will find that there is a true hope for the dead and consolation for the living. Some additional scriptures you might find encouraging is Acts 24:15 and Revelation 21:1-4.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MY DEAREST SON

happy holidays in heaven.I miss you and the loneliness is increasing everyday and I miss you.I dont know why you had to die and leave me here alone.The cats have been ornery and Kramer is getting to be a little stinky.I miss everything about you.And guess what? I miss the way that we used to fight and i cant wait to see you again.Damm these holidays! I hate this guilt!

Brian Well im trying to get Christmas out. It is really hard without you. I miss you so very much. Wish you were here.Wish i could just out my arms around you one more time. I love You Your Wife

Happy Birthday Kevin.

Twenty one years ago at 2:22am I gave birth to you and it was the most amazing event of my life. I always wanted you, even before you were born. I want you still and my heart longs to hold you and play with that beautiful long hair.

Until we meet again, you are always on my mind and in my heart.Love Mom

My husband died very unexpectedly almost two years ago.  He was on his way home and had a massive heart attack.  It was over in a second.  My son was in the truck with him and wasn't hurt, thankfully.  I think I am still numb.  I realize more and more each day just how "perfect for me" he was.  I miss him more than I can possibly convey in a message.  I have a lot of mixed feelings and sometimes feel so overwhelmed by them.  The pain is almost unbearable.  I have two chldren that are a huge comfort to me, but they miss their Daddy and they have their own grieving to contend with.  It is just too much at times to think about. 

My 19 year old son Richard was found dead in a hotel room in Charlotte, North Carolina earlier this week. He was discharged from the army national guard on the 15th of November. He was on his way home to his father and missed his bus. I don't know what happened after that. The army is investigating adn they have told me nothing so far. I am barely holding on-was at the hospital last night with 230/100 blood pressure. I want to know what is happening to my son, where he is, when he is coming home and it is frustrating. i don't even know how he died.

 Some people come into our lives and quickly go. They move our souls to dance, and make the sky more beautiful to gaze upon. They stay in our lives for a while, leave footprints on our heart and we are never the same again.

My father died of cancer also.  I am so sorry that you and your family are dealing with this pain.  God bless

I am asking all our dear friends to please keep my grandma in your prayers! For people that doesn't know about my grandma she is James Van Horn's wife. My grandpa is on Vm and my family and I have received so much love, comfort and support on this memorial Site. My grandma is 54 years old and was just dx with Lung Cancer stage IV. She received 3 rounds of chemo Almita/Carbo and after receiving a CT scan it came back that the chemo hasnt helped the tumor in her right lung had grown during chemo the tumor size is now 7.8, after speaking to other oncologist they all said the samething the cancer had spread to alot of her lymph nodes and so on. So, they recommend Hospice! I thought I would never see another one of my love ones go through hospice again at least not so soon. As for now my grandma does have a site on caringbridge under the name of brendavanhorn1 I hate the fact that one day sooner then later I will be adding another site on VM for her. I have 3 VM love ones my great grandma and grandpa, and uncle and now a caringbridge site for my grandma. I really dont know what my mom and I would do with our VM family! So, I am asking for your help once again to keep my grandma in your prayers as her days are coming to an end fast! She has been complaining about back pain, they gave her pain meds. but the pain is still there. Again all we can do is PRAY and Pray and yes pray! What Ive been praying for is that my grandma doesnt suffer, I watch my grandpa suffer for so many years I dont want my grandma to go through that! Thanks everyone!

Sissy Hendricks

I can't tell you how much a relief it is to have this forum. My dad's 10 year anniversary of being gone just happened on the 7th of this month and till this day it's as if it happened yesterday. I know people tell me it gets better with time but I have found since I am getting older it gets worse. I enjoy reading everyone's memorials and take comfort in knowing that I am not the only out there that lost someone that they loved so much, so quickly. Please stop by and visit my dad's site when you can. Thanks everyone!

When i was told that my son had been killed in an accident, i prayed for that to be a lie. i did not want to believe my precious boy was gone and i would never hear him say i love you mom. or i will be back in a little while.  i would never hear him say anything again. Since Feb 8, 2009, my life has been complete caios and i try to hold it together for my older son.  mostly though he holds it together for me.  i miss jay every second of the day. i do not know how to stop the  pain and heartache that takes complete control of your life after something so tragic takes place. My one true goal in life is to uphold the honor of my child and to never let anyone forget who is was and what he did for anyone he met. 

Hi everyone~I had kind of forgotten about my son's site here at Virtual Memorials....I hadn't been here for a while, but I have been feeling a special and deep longing for him this week------deeper than even in a "normal", given week so I returned.......I've been perusing the general VM site again too and have been touched by so many of the other memorials.......I send my condolences to any and all who come here with grief in their hearts=====I'm NO stranger to maternal grief so truly understand other moms' heart.s.....I think I have come to understand loss a lot for all those that are missing their loved ones too---I do have a memorial VM site for my son here.  His name is Colin Michael (Mike) Ewers~Sending my best wishes to all ~Claudia   (Mike's forever mom)

Kesti was one of my best friends. He always there for me when I needed a hug or a shoulder to cry on. He was truly a good friend. He always put others before himself. He was one to go to when you needed someone, and that was one of his best qualities. Sooo many good memories with zac. I miss him so much, and of course his hugs and that smirk of his. He will always be in my heart.

May you ALL find some peace within, during your trials and tributes.May you feel the love of your Angel around you and sunshine upon your shoulders...

We just put up our memorial for my mother, who passed away last week.  I want to thank the strangers who, in their own time of sorrow, took time to write in our guestbook.  That meant a lot.  Yes, we had hoped that the family recipes we posted woud be enjoyed by all who visit, not just family :-)

I lost my baby boy recently to SIDS and am having a hard time coping with what has happened. I cannot accept that he is gone. I cry everyday all day. It has been 8 weeks and i am still looking for him. I can still smell him and sometimes I think I hear him. I don't know how to keep going sometimes. this grief is so overwhelming and totally consuming. Does any one else struggle with these feelings?  My strength is fading and my spirit is weak. I miss my son, I ache for him. Can any one help me to understand? This just doesnt seem real, I can't believe these things really happen. I never dreamed of any thing of this nature ever happening to me, but now it is a cross I must bare for the rest of my life, i just pray for wisdom and grace and I hope they find me soon.

Lonnie, I am so sorry for your lose

Hi all, I just wanted to let you know about an HBO Documentary film that aired this past Monday night called, "Boy Interrupted".  Finally, some open discussion on the subject of mental illness and suicide among young people.

To see a clip of the movie, go to: YouTube.com  Search: Boy Interrupted clip. 

To see a part of the interview of his mother, Search: Director \'Boy Interrupted\' tells son\'s story.

This heart wrenching film was extremely well done.  I reccommend it highly.

Laurie from California

Dear Lois,

You are totally correct in saying that anyone who has not experienced the loss of a child has no idea the pain we are going through.  My child too went to live in Heaven after a car accident two years ago.  I too use to get upset at people when they would encourage me to "move on", but then I realized that they truly have no idea the journey we are on and instead of getting angry I just look at them and pray that they never truly understand because the ONLY way you can is to lose a child - and so I pray they never do understand.  The grief we feel is for the LOVE of our child and the feeling of loss for ourselves.   And I truly believe we are suppose to dig deeper into the meaning of life and our faith, make a meaning out of the lessons of our children's lives and yes - even their passing - has taught us.  Their lives matter and have changed our lives forever.  I understand your regret as well.  I felt the exact same way.  Why didn't I tell her to take a different route, gone with her, not let her go, on and on, but then somewhere I read that is our ego talking to us telling us it is all our fault.  It is not your fault for daughter's accident any more than it was mine.  I know that one is so very hard to let go of , but please know it was not your fault and your daughter will always be here with you.